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How To Teach Somebody

You cannot teach someone by protecting them from pain because they would do anything to escape it.    You can only teach them by providing them with pleasure because they will voluntarily follow it and will want more of it ...
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Darkness

Let your darkness shine brightly ...
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Darkness Has Come To Help

Our energy was hiding far away within our goals. It was only a shadow of what it truly is. Darkness had to come and kill our limiting perceptions. Our world was destroyed and scattered beneath our feet. Something new was born. Our soul came out in its purest form, innocent but ...
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Coincidence Becomes Serendipity

When coincidence becomes serendipity, intuition has stopped whispering and is running by our side ...
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Living With Energy

Living with energy is like constructing a rollercoaster while riding it ...
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Love

You cannot spread love and be stingy with it at the same time ...
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Learn As If Your Life Depends On It

Musashi, the most famous Japanese sword fighter, won over 60 1-on-1 duels to the death. He was a true master of his craft but he understood one thing: In order to balance your art, you must learn many unrelated things such as calligraphy, cooking, philosophy or dancing. You cannot just ...
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Coincidence vs. Meaning

Coincidence is the quiet anthem of the universe. Meaning is what makes us feel safe. It is the mask we place on reality to make it digestible and predictable. Its what we use as a lens to view the past so that we do not go insane. Meaning does have its place, ...
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Linking Circumstance to Emotion.

Linking circumstances to emotions is the hallmark of immaturity. Just because something is happening does not mean that it has a meaning. Meaning is created and not found. The partner you are with, the position you are in, the colour of your skin, the income of your parents, your health, ...
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You are Twice as Fast

How would life be if you were twice as fast as everyone else? You would think twice as fast, eat twice as fast, move twice as fast - you would, understand, digest, react, inspire, navigate, influence and see twice as fast. How self-sufficient would you be? How would you view ...
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Things Are Not Designed For You

The plants around you are not supposed to heal you. They did not grow thinking "I would like to help boost someones immune system today". They follow their own agenda in this world. Their compounds have not evolved to ease your pain. They have evolved to allow the species to ...
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What We Are Meant To Do

"You are born as what you need to deal with, and if you just try and push it away, whatever it is, it's got you." - Ram Dass @babaramdass When we are hungry, all we can see are restaurants. When our car broke down, all we can see are car repair ...
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What Earns a Man the Love of a Woman?

What earns a man the love of a woman? To truly understand this we have to take a step back and look at how men and women have developed. Following natural selection, the women who showed behaviors beneficial to their survival were more likely to pass on their genes. Obviously ...
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Kindness is a Selfish Emotion and Accelerates Progress

An expressed need to change others is a desperate need to change ourselves. Kindness is the strongest way of connecting to another human being. When we have it, we feel good. When we don't have it, we feel isolated and only think about results. What can I get from another person? What ...
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The Dark Side of Men and Women

Men learn to love the woman they are attracted to. Women learn to become attracted to the man they fall in love with. ― Woody Allen Men and women have different needs and desires. By looking at how they manifest in their extremes we can better understand their day-to-day behaviors. What is ...
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Bury Us

They tried to bury us. They didn't know we were seeds. ― Dinos Christianopoulos ...
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Violence

Some people are looking for violence but if there's none within you, it cannot be found ...
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Love and Respect

By default, other people deserve love and care but they can lose it depending on how they behave. By default, people do not deserve respect but they can earn it depending on how they behave ...
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We Not Only Have a Dark Side, We Are the Dark Side

One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light, but by making the darkness conscious. - Carl Jung If we had been living in Germany during the Nazi uprising, we'd all be Nazi's. There is nothing holy or divine about us which could protect us from our capacity to ...
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Changing Other People

Consider how hard it is to change yourself and you'll understand what little chance you have in trying to change others. ― Jacob M. Braude We cannot change other people by helping them to fix their problems. The only thing we can do is make such an impression on them ...
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Exposure

We can learn a lot, read a lot and do a lot. But do we grow from it? What makes us grow is what challenges us AND what pulls us. Let me explain: Wim Hof is this incredible guy who climbs Mount Everest in his shorts and swims under the ...
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Mindfulness: Anticipation and Expectation

This life needs to be lived, these moments are meant to happen. When we have a break at work and sit somewhere eating lunch, we tend to think that this is some in-between-space we occupy. We are waiting for something else to happen. What is happening is not what we ...
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On Happiness

Happiness is finding the doorway between sadness and joy ...
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How to Find Your Way When You’ve Lost It

Life is confusion. It is each of us wandering around this world and looking for ourselves, emotions riding in the most unforseen directions and life itself desperately growing in ever more diversity as if in fear of going extinct. Yes, there is a fear there. The problem with purpose is ...
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Manifesto

My intuition is my teacher. Growth is my God. I let go of everything I've accomplished yesterday and find out what is true today ...
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Emotion Is Power: Rawness Of Being

Whatever you feel is your greatest strength. If you can accept it and intensify it, you can do anything. All of our conflict and unhappiness stems from trying to suppress or change our emotions... in vain. If you are content with what you feel and do not try to hide ...
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Women and Dating: What Is True Right Now?

Here's something I have discovered by talking to a lot of women. Women might like you, feel safe with you and attracted by you. They agree to meet you and you set up a date. Then later, they maybe change their minds. That is the downside. Women say that they ...
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Learning Effortlessly: How to Let Your Intuition Teach You

I have recently discovered the book The Inner Game of Tennis. It contains some very interesting ideas on the nature of learning that go far beyond tennis. I have added some of my own experiences to it to make it more practical: Do not consciously self-correct your mistakes. The behavior ...
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Making Progress In Life: In this Process We Trust

Progress is something we must do on a consistent basis. Otherwise, nothing will ever change. Everything we do on a consistent basis is called a habit, meaning something we do automatically without questioning it. In order to build a habit, it must contain three important components according to The Power of Habit ...
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The Highs and the Lows: The Painful Road of Progress

When we start to work on ourselves we discover things that are very easy to solve and things that are extremely difficult. The more difficult they are the more of our emotional buttons we will press. When we are successful we get high, we can do anything! We are in ...
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Honesty: What Could Be More Selfish?

I always tell the truth. Telling the truth is very selfish and I always put myself first. Lying means to try managing other people's beliefs and expectations while manipulating them to do what you want. This way you stop looking inside and therefore you cannot grow. Telling the truth means ...
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A Great Life

Do not waste your time on good things. The difference between a bad life and good life is small. The difference between a good life and a great life is huge. Do the things that make your life great and not the things that make it good. Never forget: You ...
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Desire

Desire is love and does not need an outcome. Wanting is fear and cannot live without an outcome. If you can desire without wanting you are free to have everything ...
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Access

The most important thing in life is access. Nobody wants money, we want the things money allows us to access. Nobody wants the perfect partner, we want the emotions that a partner gives us access to. Everybody has a maze inside that is blocking our access so that we crave ...
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The Zone Of Power: Your Mind​s Must Shift Because They Don’t Play Well

"You can't suffer your way to success." - Jesse Elder "...And you can't enjoy yourself on the way either." So, where does this lead us? What about suffering, grinding and banging our heads against the wall? Is this not success? Nope. When you have to work really hard every day and ...
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Your Life’s Purpose: Properly Implementing Your Goals

Have you ever tried to lose weight, stop smoking or stop eating junk food .... and failed? We tend to make these goals and then expect our discipline and willpower to take care of it. What we don't consider is this: Why do we really want to reach that goal ...
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Removing Emotional Addictions: The Barriers Of Success

"This one is gonna go on and on...until we get smart or we get lucky. He won't stop." - "Why not?" "Because it makes him God. Would you give that up?" Red Dragon (2002) Have you ever noticed that some of the things you do are easier to plan and ...
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Balancing The Sociopath And The Empath

In life, everything has two extremes. Darkness and light. Up and down. Warm and cold. It's the yin and the yang. The black and the white. This symbol shows how both sides are in perfect symmetry, not within themselves but with each other. Together they form a whole. The full ...
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How To Overcome Obstacles Without Wasting All Your Energy

“The impediment to action advances action. What stands in the way becomes the way.” Marcus Aurelius in Meditations We all face obstacles whenever we try to achieve anything, that's just life. The universe has this cruel irony: It gives us an intense desire for something, puts it right in front of ...
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How To Remove Conflict When Everyone Is Always Right

A man enters the train while another passenger is still trying to get out. With his path blocked, the passenger angrily tells the other man to let people leave first. The man returns this anger and tells him to be at the door when the train stops, not sit until the last ...
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How To Actually Master Free Will By Taking Control

Do you want to be free? Good luck, because no one is truly free. The more powerful or wealthy you are, the more responsibilities you have. The more creative and expressive you are, the more work you have to do. The more social and loved you are, the more available ...
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How To Be Happy Without Running The Hamster Wheel To Nowhere

The title is inspired by a quote from Peter Sage, where he describes the current trend of career planning and egoic satisfaction as a hamster wheel to nowhere. In The Willpower Instinct, Kelly McGonigal tells about a scientific study, where they took a few mice and let them get really, ...
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Do You Remember When We Discovered Reality?

OK, now we know the truth. We actually do live in a virtual reality and someone is currently playing us. It really isn't that surprising if you think about it. Now it makes sense that life is so confusing at times and that we all seem so moody every other ...
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Limiting Beliefs: Who’s To Say What’s Impossible?

We all believe things about life and about ourselves in order to function in this world. I believe that I'm still alive tomorrow morning, therefore I make plans. I believe that gravity will still be around when my foot leaves the ground, so I don't hesitate before every step. There ...
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The Key To Success: The Art Of Persistence

The truth is this: There are two things that decide if you're successful in anything: Luck and persistence. And you don't necessarily need both of them! You can either work your ass off, be super lucky or just have a combination of them. Like in the quote: "I am a ...
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How To Fight Monsters: Battling Fear

"Whoever fights monsters should see to it that in the process he does not become a monster. And if you gaze long enough into an abyss, the abyss will gaze back into you." Friedrich Nietzsche If you were the most adventurous fish in the lake, you would probably know every ...
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How To Get Something That You Really, Really Want

You wake up one hour earlier than you have to. You get up and do your routine, eat some breakfast and wash yourself. You get dressed and instead of starting your normal day, you take the first active hour for your personal progress. You don't sleep in, you don't stall, you are ...
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How To Effortlessly Communicate With Other People

Anxiety is love's greatest killer. It makes one feel as you might when a drowning man holds unto you. You want to save him, but you know he will strangle you with his panic.  - Anaïs Nin Our personal communication style is a direct reflection of our own objectives regarding other people ...
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How To Stop Wasting Your Potential On A Daily Basis

Every day we have a limited amount of time and energy to spend. The way we spend them will decide the exact future we are going to have. Now, here's the thing: Every second you waste with things that don't bring you closer to your goal will be lost. Every day ...
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Progress: You Can Choose The State You Will Be In

Alright, this will be a shorter one. As the title says, the basic idea is this: You can choose the state you will be in. What I mean by that is that even though you can't change how you feel on a certain day or how your mood will change depending ...
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How To Have Everything: You Can Do What You Want

Arthur Schopenhauer famously said: "Man can do what he wills but he cannot will what he wills." I totally agree with that statement because we are unable to control what has already shaped us, we can only deal with it. Here's what I've come to believe lately: Man can do what ...
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Uncertainty Is Not Here To Harm, It Is Here To Play

“The bad news is you’re falling through the air, nothing to hang on to, no parachute. The good news is there’s no ground.” - Chögyam Trungpa Uncertainty is that thing that makes us doubt. It is what gives our decisions their gravity so that we stop and consider. Uncertainty is also ...
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On Being Free (Poem)

I practise being me in a world, that does not see. I repress to fit the crowd 'cause being free is not allowed. I shy away from being bold 'cause that's the way I've been told. Such a life I do resist and out of spite, I will persist. What I am ...
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How To Grow Even If You Don’t Feel The Progress

While I'm packing my things and head home, I realise that I haven't really made time for my main project today. I was busy with many important things, but now I feel like I've let my future self down. I leave the building, deep in thought, then pause for a ...
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Difficult Conversations: How To Always Stay In Control

I feel myself getting agitated while I speak. What are you doing? I keep getting faster and faster. You should know better. I explain my point as clearly as possible, while I see the other person getting more and more defensive. I just can't seem to stop. I've been here ...
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Goal Setting: Do You Know What You Want?

If you can't communicate your own goals to yourself so clearly, that you will even understand them when you are overworked, tired and unmotivated, then you can never reach them. This is about putting some effort into explaining, to yourself, who you already are. Do not fall into the timeless trap of ...
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Isn’t Believing Itself The Weirdest Thing?

There is something in the air, watching us. It is always there if we pay attention or not. When we push, it retracts. When we retract, it pushes. I call it the presence. Have you ever noticed it?   I think life is ridiculous. If you are really present and ...
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Symptoms: How To Deal With Not Feeling Great

I wake up. My eyes feel tired, but I am restless and can't go back to sleep again. Am I missing some nutrients? My heart is pounding stronger than usual, did I eat wrong last night? Now that I'm paying attention, I think my skin is a little dry, I ...
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Live Without Regret: How To Be Good At Life

We humans create ourselves. The better we create ourselves according to who we're meant to be, the better we are at the game of life. Our only test will be this: How at ease will you be in old age when you know that death is coming? I think it's funny how there is ...
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For Men: How To Have An Orgasm Without Ejaculating

What I do: I get up, do some light exercise and stretching to wake up my body. I sit in front of a mirror in a half-lotus position and stimulate myself physically without getting lost in phantasy. I must stay present so that I won't miss the space between the orgasm and the ...
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How To Master Loneliness By Looking Right Through it

How I meditate: I sit on a meditation pillow in front of a mirror. My spine is erect and my legs are in a half lotus position. I look into my eyes for 20 minutes and stay in my company. That's it. I've started meditating about three years ago because I ...
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Regaining Your Health: A Common Sense Approach

It is incredible how many resources there are on how to combat disease, how to be healthier and  how to heal yourself from anything. I've had a lot of troubles myself a few years ago and even though health is an ongoing project, I'd like to share a few things I've ...
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