What We Are Meant To Do

“You are born as what you need to deal with, and if you just try and push it away, whatever it is, it’s got you.” – Ram Dass @babaramdass   When we are hungry, all we can see are restaurants. When our car broke down, all we can see are car repair shops. Everybody has a…

What Earns a Man the Love of a Woman?

What earns a man the love of a woman? To truly understand this we have to take a step back and look at how men and women have developed. Following natural selection, the women who showed behaviors beneficial to their survival were more likely to pass on their genes. Obviously women are physically weaker than…

Kindness is a Selfish Emotion and Accelerates Progress

An expressed need to change others is a desperate need to change ourselves. Kindness is the strongest way of connecting to another human being. When we have it, we feel good. When we don’t have it, we feel isolated and only think about results. What can I get from another person? What is in it for me?…

The Dark Side of Men and Women

Men learn to love the woman they are attracted to. Women learn to become attracted to the man they fall in love with. ― Woody Allen Men and women have different needs and desires. By looking at how they manifest in their extremes we can better understand their day-to-day behaviors. What is the darkest side of women…

Bury Us

They tried to bury us. They didn’t know we were seeds. ― Dinos Christianopoulos

Violence

Some people are looking for violence but if there’s none within you, it cannot be found.

Love and Respect

By default, other people deserve love and care but they can lose it depending on how they behave. By default, people do not deserve respect but they can earn it depending on how they behave.

We Not Only Have a Dark Side, We Are the Dark Side

One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light, but by making the darkness conscious. – Carl Jung If we had been living in Germany during the Nazi uprising, we’d all be Nazi’s. There is nothing holy or divine about us which could protect us from our capacity to do harm to others and…

Changing Other People

Consider how hard it is to change yourself and you’ll understand what little chance you have in trying to change others. ― Jacob M. Braude We cannot change other people by helping them to fix their problems. The only thing we can do is make such an impression on them and be so in alignment…

Exposure

We can learn a lot, read a lot and do a lot. But do we grow from it? What makes us grow is what challenges us AND what pulls us. Let me explain: Wim Hof is this incredible guy who climbs Mount Everest in his shorts and swims under the ice caps of the north…

Mindfulness: Anticipation and Expectation

This life needs to be lived, these moments are meant to happen. When we have a break at work and sit somewhere eating lunch, we tend to think that this is some in-between-space we occupy. We are waiting for something else to happen. What is happening is not what we do, but something that is an…

On Happiness

Happiness is finding the doorway between sadness and joy.